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Rami Beracha’s blog on the venture capital market. Rami is also the Co-Founder of Sosa.

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It’s a big problem when people misunderstand. It’s a hazard we’ve have created. It begins a second after making contact with another person, and ends with an incredible explosion…

The most common mistake we make is to think that we’re in complete alignment in our expectations of each other and not trying to guess what our partner’s expectations are of us. There’s one thing that we are completely in agreement with our partner on – he also doesn’t miss the chance to increase the gap between expectations. …. We’re not notified by anyone.

There are a variety of reasons for miscommunications. They are usually related to our personalities. Square personalities are more likely to communicate in a misguided manner than liberal personalities, while people who are aggressive might have trouble aligning their expectations with those of passive individuals. This is easy to recognize as everyone can tell squared from the liberal, and passive from the aggressive.

But, what is the likelihood that they’re so different, but they do not recognize it. Imagine to yourself that there’s a type of a personality gap which exists, but which is not even noticed by us. It has never been discovered or been warned of or studied it. !

Ladies and gentlemen! Let me introduce you to a brand-new personality one that we all share. The characters of the FULL CIRCLE differ from the half CLIRCLE personalities. !

Be aware that this is not a form of behavior guidance. After you’ve read the analysis, try and discover which you are the most like in your character. At the same time you should determine who your partner in real life is. If you find that you’re two different people – as Bono says, “we can be one, but not the same”, – you should be very content as you might have found the root-cause behind the differences between you. If, on the other hand you’re similar to one another and you are not, I am sorry to say that I am unable to help you figure out why you have relationships that seem so bad.

Let’s start…

Two types of human beings are there. There are two types of people that are the full circle kind, who is completely self-contained and feels completely at ease being alone. He does want to be a part of a group and sure, he’s always seeking an individual to share his experiences with. Absolutely! All true … However, he’ll never be able to live without a suitable partner. Once he has found the person of his dreams and is ready to live his life shoulder-to-shoulder with his hopefully complete circle of friends.

The “half-a circle” type is the other aspect of humankind. (No, it’s not full-circle , but it was damaged during delivery). They won’t let go of the savage creature after they have found it. They’ll work to physically join their victim in a happy circle. They will not compromise their desire to be in a position to gaze at one others for the rest of their lives. It is impossible to make them feel more intimate than that.

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One interesting difference between the two is the decision to let go of a partner. The full circle is likely to release themselves quickly from an individual he no longer has the chemistry of. Half-a-circle types will, however redefine what having mutual chemistry with their partner means – ‘I’m keeping this B..ST..RD until I am able replace them with an appropriate upgrade’.

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Imagine to yourself the unbelievable dance taking place in the moment a “half-a-circle” and an “full-circle” are trying to impress his partner, not being aware of their different geometries. The Half takes two steps forward far beyond the comfort zone of the Full, who find this unexpected invasion to his personal zone a little too frightening. So he fixes this zone-invasion-problem by making a gentle step backward. The problem is that he took half of his comfortable zone …. and while the Half was sure the Full was making an innocent error The Half starts to get frustrated and takes another step forward. They can understand why, but because they don’t have the correct terms to explain their confusion and head to the wrong directions. They could have avoided their own misery by knowing the difference between Full and Half.

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Although there isn’t a single conclusion, there are a variety of actions that can be taken.

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1. Find out who you are as a person.

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2. Find out who your partner is

3. Recognize that there is a distinction.

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3. Respect the difference!

Let’s just say that there is only one conclusion: Live and let be.